The Mighty Daisy

Encourager | Advocate | Survivor

About The Mighty Daisy

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Our mission is to encourage, empower, and educate women to achieve their God-given potential. 

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Daisy Clarke

Hi! I’m Daisy and I am the founder of The Mighty Daisy blog. Let me tell you a little bit about The Mighty Daisy. Several years ago, I left a verbally and sexually abusive marriage. The truth is I should have left long before I actually¬†did. I didn’t because I was so afraid I couldn’t make it on my own. The thought of being a single mother terrified me and really wanted my marriage to work out. Leaving would also force me to admit all the horrific things that TD was doing to me and to our marriage.

Finally, I hit my breaking point and left with my daughter, Emma. It was so liberating but completely terrifying. When I was finally on my own, I was a mess. Slowly but surely, I started to remember how capable and resourceful I was, and I began to find myself again. My years married to TD, eroded my self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth to almost nothing. As I got back on my feet, I realized how toxic and terrible my marriage was. I subjected myself to verbal and sexual abuse for years and I thought that if I could “just be who he wants,” it would stop. I didn’t want to admit what was happening to me was happening.


The Awakening

When I finally went practically no-contact, I noticed that I felt constantly anxious and I always seemed to have a knot of anxiety in my core. I would snap out of nowhere in certain situations for no reason. When the weekend approached, a terrible feeling of dread would creep in and amplify my anxiety. I felt so ashamed of what I let happen to me and what had become of me.

What really clued me into how bad my marriage was, was when I met my now husband Louis. He’s wonderful, loving, and so supportive. Now I know why it never worked with anyone else. I also know now what a healthy relationship looks like, which really shined the light on everything that I tried to hide during my marriage to TD. This led to me falling into a depression and my feelings of guilt and shame grew exponentially.


Learning About Narcissistic Abuse

I decided to see a therapist. Throughout my sessions, I started to be able to organize my thoughts and understand my anxiety was out of control. Like many people, the psychologist diagnosed me with PTSD from narcissistic abuse. A light bulb burst in my head and learning about narcissists and the damage that they can do validated so much. I wasn’t crazy was the biggest revelation.

Everything in my world all of a sudden just made sense. My quest became learning everything I could about narcissistic abuse. A result of my studies, a huge weight lifted off of me. Validation and the support that I found was amazing. There is also great comfort in knowing I wasn’t the only one who had this experience in a relationship. 


A Mother’s Worst Nightmare

Then in 2016, my worst nightmare came true. My daughter disclosed to me that she was sexually abused by my ex-husband, her father. I was devastated, but I knew that how I reacted would affect how she would heal, so I went right to work by calling the police. My divorce attorney got an email and we¬†started working to fight my abuser for sole custody. No longer was terrified of TD. The County Sheriff’s office served him papers and have been fighting him to present day in court.

The Nightmare Gets Worse

Through a serious of traumatic events that my husband and I started to experience, job loss, court problems, debt mounting, mental health issues, we found ourselves in a never-ending cycle of debt, depression, and family issues. We are now one disaster away from being homeless and I mean that literally. We have to step up and conquer our demons, if not for ourselves than for our daughter.

She deserves so much more than I have been giving her. My life troubles has turned me into a shell of a person I once was. My husband, who is a wonderful man, is in the same position. I know we are smart, educated and have the power to turn this ship around. It’s so incredibly hard to keep positive, to keep going, and to keep trying to be the mother I want to be.


Why The Mighty Daisy?

I had, and have, so much support and encouragement from friends, family, counselors, and people I have met through various support groups that I had gotten involved with. With the help of my tribe, I have learned to get a better handled on my anxiety. My narc has no power or control over me. With some time and a good therapist, I have overcome a lot and have a completely different outlook on life. I am still a work in progress. We all are.

I’m not going to lie my life is a hot mess. Mess doesn’t even describe it. It’s in a million pieces and trying to put them back together is beyond a challenge. It’s like putting back together a crystal vase that has shattered. Just when you feel like your getting somewhere, you get bumped and have to start all over. I feel defeated, humiliated and broken. But I know with the grace of God and determination, I will get back to a better version of the person I was.

Alright the Point?

Too many blogs show the rosey side of life. There are a million blogs that show, how to prevent financial ruin, but very few showing how someone pulls themselves out of a massive hole. Very few blogs who the truly messy parts of life. That is the point. I want to be real with my readers. Life is hard and messy and sometimes we get ourselves into situations that appear to be impossible to recover from. I want to show you how it’s possible to get back to leading the life God intended you to live. To overcome huge obstacles, get back on track, recover from traumatic events, and be a better version of yourself.

You can expect me to post around 1-2 times per week about various topics related to empowerment, narcissistic abuse, recovery after narcissistic abuse, mental health, finances, and other topics related. I also plan to blog about frugal living, money, and savings because I have found that finances are a lot of the reasons why women stay way too long in abusive relationships. Remember if I can do it, you CAN too!

So that is the very abridged story about me. Tell me about you! Let me know if you have any questions or comments. Or you email me at [email protected]


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